Parenting Teens & Tweens, Day 21
Mary Jane was the first person I ever hired, and I vividly recall her response to my question about her greatest accomplishment:
“Raising my two sons to be responsible adults, both out of college with meaningful careers, considerate of and generous to others, and one now married and expecting his first baby.”
It wasn’t the rehearsed answer I anticipated, and it set her apart from the other less mature applicants. Like two strangers at a wedding, it was an exchange that began constructing a framework for my parenting philosophy when my babies were merely eye twinkles:
I now knew my end game.
You don’t raise your little children to become bigger children, you raise them to become adults. I’d wager the majority of parents agree with that sentiment, but realizing it early on and allowing it to inform how you parent is key.
There’s a constant parenting push and pull—eagerly anticipating and celebrating markers and milestones, while resisting time’s swift flight.
Focusing on the bulls eye makes a difference in hitting the target.
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This is good. I have tried to let me kids be who they are and not what I expected them to be. I have two who finished college. One called one night at midnight a year after he was out of high school. He moved to the DC area and was living with his sister. Since he graduated hs with honors I assumed he would go to college but he waited a year. Then the phone came. “What would you think if I got on a bus at midnight and went to NYC to audition to get into AADA”? Acting was a dream of his. I told him to go for it. He got in, did extremely well and is now in LA making his dreams come true. I know dreams change as we grow. I have talked to him about this. It would have been more comforting to me if he had gone to college, graduated and became a college professor teaching drama and English … But I am so proud of him, of all four of my kids and I support what probably seems a little crazy to some parents.