It was likely birthed as a gentle correction to my inconsiderate transgression: I had dared to turn down the corner of a page in one of her books.
For one so young, she took good care of her special possessions, and there were no greater treasures than her books. These were no papery trophies staged on a shelf. They were stirrers of imagination, journeys of escape, introductions to new friends. It wasn’t hard to figure out those she loved most, loose bindings or passages lined and noted told on her.
You could read this child by studying her bookshelf, and even more so if you opened some of those books. For a season, she carefully applied Wite-Out to profanities, a discovery that made me shake my head in wonder and admiration. We were intentional parents who did our best to train a child in the way she should go, but this was beyond expectation. She was so much better than I ever hoped to be. In case you didn’t realize, “bad” words do show up in children’s books sometimes.
If memory serves me rightly, I was annoyed when she scolded me for folding a page corner to mark my place. She was making a mountain out of a molehill. I was disrespecting her property. Neither of us was particularly impressed with the other’s point of view.
I don’t think I fully understood the gravity of this breach to her until she handed me a present a few days later, a hand-stitched bookmark. Certainly, it served both of us, but it was no doubt a love offering. She paid for it with humanity’s most valuable currency – time – and to me it was priceless.
I was heartbroken years later when it was no where to be found.
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But this is a story with a happy ending, the kind punctuated with tears, heart-wrung but binding joy to sadness in the presence of good but hard things.
She found the bookmark she had sewn for me half her life ago.
She was in the process of turning her room into mountains, piles to sell, piles to give away, piles to throw away, piles to keep. The yuckiest pile was the one marked undecided; it held sentimental attachment but no practical good. Every thing was a symbol of something more, a memory or season worth holding onto. It wasn’t about the thing itself but the everything else of it that made these things so hard to get rid of. If you’ve got an old tee shirt in your drawer you haven’t worn in decades but won’t throw away, you know exactly what I mean.
Somewhere in the sorting and pile-making, she found my bookmark. Neither of us know why it was in her room but who cares? She found a treasured possession.
When I look at this bookmark, I see her then. I can sense her indignation over my scarring her precious book, and her satisfaction in figuring out a brilliant solution.
Uneven stitches…ragged edges…skewed alignment–the casual observer might see a mess of imperfection, but all I see is something perfectly beautiful.
The same could be said of all of us, I suppose.
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When you’re raising your children it feels like it will last forever, doesn’t it? The fridge is a revolving gallery, measuring time in footprints and thumbprints and handprints. Crooked letters and misspelled words. Construction paper and tissue paper, glitter and glue and gumption.
We save every masterpiece…
because we don’t quite know when the last one will be The Last One.
But make no mistake my friends, there is a Last One.
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I find her sitting on the floor in her room surrounded by piles of things wanted and not, an undoing of the life she’s constructed for more than a dozen years. It will be the place she’ll remember as “home” when she’s grown and away, the house dreams about her childhood will travel back to.
The bookmark is on the floor next to her – “The bookmark you made me…!” “Yeah, I’m not sure why it’s in here….” – and the sight of it slays me happy. It’s a prodigal, an old friend, treasure found, and surely it’s a good sign of some sort. The edges are a bit frayed and the ink escaped her lines, but those things only endear me further.
Sometimes you can love a thing so much it becomes an idol, but sometimes that thing is a just a placeholder for something else, and there’s no sin or shame in those affections.
Memories roll in like thunder. So do thoughts of her future.
In four days we’ll pack up the piles she decided to take and drive 1400 miles to go confidently in the direction of her dreams, to begin living the life she’s imagined.
The bookmark stays with me.
Robin,
Your daughter sounds just like my husband and his nephew. They love books–the smell of paper, etc. DO NOT FOLD a corner to mark a page. Keep them pristine!!!
I’m glad you found the book mark. It tells of her love for you and should be treasured!! May God bless you all as you journey on to the life she’s imagined!!
Great story! Thanks for sharing!!!
Blessings 🙂
I’m trailing behind you just a little bit, my oldest and only girl a Junior this year. Beautiful words here, glad to have discovered this space.
I adore this story. It’s just so sweet and precious and wonderful. Thanks for sharing, Robin.
I am deeply touched by this. I have 3 children at home and I find myself sometimes regretting time not spent with them because of business or sluggishness. I want to make every moment count, but I seem to always get sidetracked and feeling condemned at bedtime.
My children do write little notes and slip under the door, like…”Can I please have ice-cream?” or “Are we going fishing tomorrow?” They almost never write the same thing. I have a dresser full of notes to prove it, ha ha!
This story leads me to spend allot more time with the children I have at home. I will miss them when they’re grown and have families of their own.
I know I will always go back to the notes on my desk. I sometimes wonder if they will remember the time spent at home with me. I want us to have as many good times, and ‘clean’ messes as we can while the’re here.
That’s one reason I have my website up, to have memories to go back to.
Thank you for all your encouragement. This isn’t the first I’ve read.
God has gifted you with the ability to reach hearts, thank you for sharing it:)