I’ve long eaten my words (and attitude) from my 30s about friendship. Jerry Seinfeld captured it perfectly in one of his show’s monologues–
Oy. There was a season in our lives when we couldn’t make room for anyone new…or maybe we just wouldn’t.
“I’m sure you’re a very nice person, you seem to have a lot of potential. We’re just not hiring right now.”
Though unintentional, that about summed us up.
Fast forward 20+ years and three moves and I’m happy to say that’s no longer our attitude, practice or position. We learned the hard way.
What are your thoughts about making friends as an adult? Easier? Harder? than when you were a child? Can you see general characterizations/differences when you were in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s…? Are you open to new friendships? What do you do to invite them? Do you see yourself as closed? What are the biggest barriers to your making new friends?
Are you interviewing? Is your dance card full?