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   Monica @ Paper Bridges on at

   High School. Don’t even get me started. The only thing worse – middle school.
   geez, I’m cranky today…

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   Malia on at

   I agree. We tell our kids over and over that life is not fair but I think it really begins to sink in in high school.

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   sprittibee on at

   Even at homeschool, school isn’t fair. Because any time you make a kid do something they don’t want to do – you become the wicked witch of the west. 😉

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   teahouseblossom on at

   Totally true!! Ugh, when I think of the rejection, the bad hairdos, the bad clothes, the mean teachers, getting picked last in gym class, it all rings true. Life is so not fair!!

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   Jill on at

   I have two high schoolers this year and I totally agree! I cannot count the number of times one of them has said, “But that’s not fair!” No, it isn’t. High school is a great place to learn that concept – that everything in life isn’t fair.
   In high school (most of the time) the consequences of that “not fair-ness” are minor – hurt feelings, inconvenience, a small amount of extra work, extra laps after practice,etc. Kids learn to deal with those disappointments (and hopefully, learn resilience) before the consequences are bigger (lost jobs, cheating spouses, being past over for promotions, etc). Kids learn so much more than algebra and history in high school!
   But man – try to convince them of that?? HA!
   Jill

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   Forgetfulone on at

   I agree. I teach in a middle school, which isn’t fair, either. I have two middle-schoolers, one in high school, and one in junior college. Not only is high school unfair, life is not fair, so at least they are all getting used to it.

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   Dianne on at

   Have to concur. And I agree w/Spritti – even in homeschool, it’s not fair. Especially when your kids are only 17 months apart. UGH.
   Saying “That’s not fair” just means you didn’t get things the way you wanted. At least that’s what I tell my youngest when he throws that at me.

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   inheritorofheaven on at

   So….let’s see….a no sandals policy at school this year? 🙂

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   Chel on at

   High school pretty much is the definition of ‘not fair,’ right? But oh, how lovely, to have the blessing of 20 years of hindsight. 🙂

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    iPost on at

    Agree! i was always jealous that my brother, 2 years my senior, was able to experience the cool things in life, especially when i was in middle school and he was in high school. He go to drive first, he got to go to prom first, he got to graduate firts, yadda-yadda-yadda. Not quite what you were looking for, but it is what popped into my mind when i read the question!

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    robyn on at

    Define fair.
    If it means you get what you deserve…
    uhhh
    I’m certainly glad Christ came and kept me from being treated ‘fairly’… (missionary R. wipes her brow as she barely escapes the flames through Jesus’ precious gift 🙂
    Now, if you want to hear more stories on fair – just ask a single mom left with 3 kids – And yet… God 🙂
    Crazy huh? fun to talk about fairness, the fried discussion from five year olds to fifty year olds –
    good grief – i’ve never posted on this blog and i’m being way too bossy!!!!!!!
    great conversation goes on here.
    Sorry if I’ve been a bit edgy…

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    Karmyn R on at

    Someone once said to me “Oh, High School – those are the best days of your life.” And when I graduated I got really depressed because I thought that life was probably going to get a heck of a lot worse. Whoever said that had a very miserable life. Because life has been nothing but SWEET after high school.

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    Carmi on at

    Life doesn’t come with guarantees, and we can’t just fix stuff after reading it in the manual. Indeed, there IS no manual.
    Because it happens at such a critical point in our development toward adulthood, it makes eminent sense for us that high school serves as a proving ground for the unfairness that awaits after graduation. Bad things sometimes happen despite our best intentions, and what “fair” doesn’t seem to have a whole lot of bearing on how everything plays out.
    May as well learn it in your teens, because then at least you have the benefit of experience when you run into similar unfairness later on – and the consequences are even more dire.
    I so hear you on this, Robin. I’m glad you posted it, as our eldest starts high school on Tuesday morning. Yikes!

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    Amber (BGH) on at

    LOL. My mom used to say, “Show me in the Bible where God promised life would be fair.”
    Now I say it to my children. 😉
    Oh – and my TWO YEAR OLD has already learned (from his sisters) to tell me “Its Not! FAIR!”
    See – even when you’re two life isn’t fair. 😉