My favorite daughter’s favorite book-du-jour is Eldest, a fantasy tale written by wise-beyond-his-years sophomore author, Christopher Paolini (wrote his first novel in the series, Eragon at only 15). Rachel–btw, my ONLY daughter–downloaded a screensaver that scrolled through a series of quotations by different characters in the book. The quotes were intriguing and inspirational, and yes, Eldest has been added to the mile-high stack of books I’m getting to…eventually.
Saphira is the character to whom my blog post title is derived, and I thought “That dragon is pretty smart for a dragon.”
Someone very dear to me is struggling in marriage right now. Short of a miracle, it’s not gonna make it. Bottom line, her husband wants out and there’s not much she can do to stop him. She and I have talked for hours, and it breaks my heart when she asks “Why is it so hard for him to love me?” “How can he do this to me, our children?” What are the answers to those questions? No good ones I can think of. When I hear the pain in her voice, my inward, defensive response becomes visceral–I’d love to beat the ever-lovin’ crap out of him (If I thought it would help, I’d try). But she loves him and that response isn’t exactly productive, let alone Godly. So I listened and encouraged and tried not to resort to “Jesus speak” too much; but I was still grasping at the “right things” to say or do. I felt like there was some answer that was eluding me.
So, I talked with my former pastor, certain he would impart some great wisdom, the “right” things to say when a wife is facing–but fighting–imminent divorce. Frustratingly, however, I couldn’t have been more disappointed; he offered little in the way of “right” words to say. I’m not sure if his lack of advice was due to confidentiality (he counseled this couple) or because he’s seen failing marriages a thousand times before and he didn’t anticipate this one making it. Whatever the reason, I was still left feeling there were no answers I could offer this precious friend. BUT, still feeling an answer, although ever elusive, was out there.
And then, BAM! I got an answer, a reminder of something simple, something I already knew but forgot, maybe because of its simplicity. Not “many” answers, just THE answer…the right answer, that until this point had eluded my grasp. And it came through another Casting Crowns song (no wonder I’m loving the CD, maybe it IS revolutionary 😉 ). Imagine my delight when, on the day I bought this CD…the very day I had gotten no stinkin’ answers from my pastor friend, a few days following the “many answers” comment from my IM buddy…that I began to hear the words of a song I had never heard before, and received a well-timed answer from the God who STILL speaks, giving me just what I needed and beautifully so. When you read the lyrics, you’ll see why I was blown away–
The love of her life is drifting away / They’re losing the fight for another day
The life that she’s known is falling apart / A fatherless home, a child’s broken heart
You’re holding her hand / You’re straining for words / You’re trying to make sense of it all /
She’s desperate for hope / Darkness clouding her view / She’s looking to you
Just love her like Jesus / Carry her to Him / His yoke is easy, His burden is light
You don’t need the answers / To all of life’s questions
Just know that He loves her and stay by her side
Love her like Jesus / Love her like Jesus
I am so thankful for this God who loves me enough to speak to ME, sometimes rather loudly, and sometimes in a still, small voice. As I often tell my children (and obviously need to be reminded myself), “God gives us two ears and one mouth so we’ll listen twice as much as we speak!”